Something that most couples do not consider when starting their lives together is the importance of a good beginning. The way in which you start a relationship can be the difference between comfort and added stress later on in the marriage. Just in the simple act of asking a father's permission before proposing can build a solid foundation of trust between in laws and between husband and wife. Many people don't realize the import of many steps in relationships. Such as who is present at the birth of a child, by sharing the experience only with those directly involved one can capitalize on an opportunity to bond and build relationships with children and spouse. Marital satisfaction tends to go down consecutively as each child is born.
Something most parents don't know is that a woman produces a considerable amount of oxytocin after she gives birth. Oxytocin is a bonding chemical, if a woman's mother, mother in law or sister is in the room when she gives off this chemical, then this time of intense bonding will be shared with the wrong person, a husband can use this to his benefit and counter act the separation that can occur if he is excluded. 
be aware of your actions, be aware of the possible consequences of excluding significant others from important moments and milestones in life.

The most profound thing that I learned this week was the Relationship Attachment Model (RAM) this model describes relationships as being split into five different aspects. these parts include: how much you know someone, trust, how much you rely on them, your commitment to them, and touch. This model suggests something that is very different than the way that most people build relationships.

The Relationship Attachment Model suggests that you should never  trust someone more than you know them, and you should never rely on someone more than you trust them, you should never be committed to someone more than you rely on them and you should never touch someone more than your commitment to them. If this is the model for a successful and fulfilling relationship, no wonder divorce rates are increasing. Relationships are being built off balance. the level of touch has far exceeded that of commitment. Cohabitation is a relationship built on the lack of commitment and trust, they are practice marriages for the purpose of getting to know one another without having to rely on the other's honesty. This is a huge reason why marriages preceded by cohabitation are three times more likely to end in divorce and dissatisfaction. The nation would be wise to consider this model when building relationships.